Congrats You’re A Parent!
You either said “ut-oh” or “finally”, which you’ll say a lot of by the way. Now that you’re officially parent, you’ve given birth (if you’re a mom), changed countless diapers and fed your child on command a million times a day. Now comes the fun stuff. Being a parent to a toddler.
It’s not easy. Starting from the very beginning it wasn’t easy. You should know by now when you were giving birth or witnessing it, that it would be an insight into what’s to come. Lots of crying and yelling.
From Crawling To Walking
Ahhh yes, they are so cute when you see the first time they crawl since they haven’t moved in about 6 months and you thought your life was boring as hell. It’s a huge milestone even though It seems so minuscule. It starts off slow and you know they won’t go far, so you know you can still get things done. When they decide themselves to start walking, it’ll more than likely be when you least expect it. Yes they really are human beings and they choose to do things when they want and you’ll soon find that out. From the very beginning you’ll wonder when they’ll start walking and even at times beg them to start because by this point you can no longer carry that heavy ass car seat on one arm because they put weight on overnight.
As parents we seem to want to rush them to do things and even compare them to other children their age. We do this when they are a newborn too. We say “Yay, a tooth!” then say “I can’t wait for this f-ing tooth to come in!” It’s all fun and miserable at the same time. Even with crawling it’s so nice to see a change and suddenly someone will say, “Now the fun starts.”
The person that said “Now the fun starts” obviously had no clue what they were talking about because what’s about to come is when the “fun” starts. Taking their first steps will be something you’ll never forget. It’s probably one of the biggest milestones you’ll be most proud of and this is when they officially become a toddler.
This Is Only The Beginning
They’ve taken their first steps towards independence and have officially become a toddler. When I say independence I mean it. They now have the go ahead to walk wherever they want whenever they want and they don’t look back. Walking sounds so nice and it seems like it’s one more thing you can check off your parenting list and you have one less thing on your shoulders. However, this is only the beginning.
Sorry to say you were sadly mistaken. Now instead of carrying them everywhere in the car seat or in your arms (which you’ll still do) you’re now holding their hand. Somehow they’re still attached to you. Huh? Aren’t they supposed to walk beside you like adults do? That’s a funny question and I’m seriously laughing. I’m guessing you have this walking on the sidewalk together look across the street before you cross image in your head. You couldn’t be further from the truth. Walking seems much easier at times and it is, but walking turns into what? Running! It seems to happen the next day.
There’s the occasional toddler that will walk beside you, never run away and listen. Both my boys were like that until age 2 1/2. They want to be free and I can’t blame them because they’ve been immobile for a good 8-14 months give or take. Hell ya, I would want to take off with my new learned skill too. My oldest is past that phase thank goodness, but I was well aware it was probably going to happen again and I was dreading it. I now have flashbacks of what I went through with my oldest because I’m in going through it again. Damn it!
When I talk about the runner I don’t mean track running. I mean full on street, store, parking lot and parks just to name a few. It happens everywhere at any given time. I mean they got to keep you in check once in a while right? This is the reason you see so many parents holding their toddlers hands. It’s not only because they love them, it’s that they don’t trust them. The first time it happens you’ll realize you’re totally out of shape and they run fast. How in the world does someone with such short legs run like that? When they do decide to take off, it’s like their life depended on it.
You’re going to yell their name and say stop, but they’ll just ignore you like everything else you say. For some strange reason it’s a game and they’ll laugh and laugh. Unfortunately they don’t yet understand why they shouldn’t run away from you and you’ll wonder what the hell is wrong with your kid. Now when you’re invited to play dates, instead of saying “sure” right away, you’ll think of things such as how far they can run and if you’ll be chasing them the whims time. When you have a runner it’s hard to have play dates and you probably won’t want to for a good 2 months or so.
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The Best Shoes For Toddlers
Now that you have an official walker, you need a good pair of shoes. Some people like expensive brand name shoes and some don’t care (like me) because they’ll be outgrown in a month. You’ll be buying many many shoes in the next 2 years and probably spending more on theirs than you would on yours.
Investing in a good pair of shoes is important. They’re just starting to fully use their feet and need that extra support.
I personally like the brand Pediped. I had never heard of them before, but I seen a child with them on and they looked so comfortable and easy for them to walk in. When I decided to get a pair I fell in love and here’s why. They fit wide feet which which is hard to find.
- They are meant to mimic their feet so it bends with them so it’s much easier to get adjusted to.
- Many styles to choose from
- Soft rubber sole for non-slip
- Material is quality and will last
- Cheap on Amazon
- Fit wide feet
- They have an online outlet!
Here’s their website and the link to check them out on Amazon
Pediped on Amazon
Another brand I loved from the beginning and still buy is Stride Rite. Here’s why I continue to buy them.
- Cheaper price on Amazon
- Lightweight and fashionable
- Also fit wide feet
- Come in many colors and styles
- Have rubber sole for non-slip
- Material is quality made to last
Here’s the link to look on Amazon
Stride Rite on Amazon
The Light At The End Of The Tunnel
Yes, there is a light at the end of the tunnel when all this craziness ends just like when you changed the last diaper and rocked them to sleep. You’ll go through so many things with these stages and things in between. It’s never a dull moment being a parent and it’s never a dull moment being a child. They’re learning about how everything works, what will happen if I do this or that and testing limits to understand what’s right and wrong or just get a rise out of you.
You’ll question pretty much everything you’re doing and never know if it’s the right decision or not. All you need to do while raising a toddler is try your best to keep your cool which is sometimes impossible when you’re in the moment. You’ll yell and even scream at the top of your lungs multiple times a day. You’ll try to filter everything that comes out of your mouth while at the same time try to come up with a way they’ll understand. It takes a lot of multitasking, hard work and dedication, but at the end of every day you somehow get through it all and you still love each other no matter what happened that day.
Just remind yourself it’s just a phase and it truly is. They’ll grow out of it and they’ll be onto something else. Tomorrow is a brand new day and a day of more adventures in the life of parenting a toddler. Please feel free to leave any questions or comments below.